Oftentimes in life, unexpected things happen. When those times occur, we find ourselves either wanting to move forward with the unexpected because it seems to hold a promising future, or, we want to regress back to what we know because the unexpected is scary or hurtful and it's more comfortable to stay in the place where we are familiar with the surroundings.
I've had many good experiences in life, and when it's good, I tend to want to stay in that moment and in that feeling. Even when things are bad, I allow my mind to wander back to "how it used to be." That's not always a good thing, though. People who continue to live in the past never have a chance to move on with their life. Yes, they are physically growing older and continue to have new experiences, however the new experiences are often clouded with the old memories.
On my way to work this morning, I was faced with a decision that has to made by 5pm today. It's in regards to my car accident almost 7 years ago that left me paralyzed. For many years, I found myself living in my "old self"... wanting so bad to go back to "how it used to be" and what was comfortable. I essentially sabatoged myself and my present living with hopes that one day it would be what I remember. The further I got away from the date of my accident, the harder I tried to hold on to what I knew. I tried to reconcile with my girlfriend whom I was in the accident with, however she wanted nothing to do with reconcilliation (I wanted to remain friends, but she was hung up on a lot of guilt, and in her mind, it was easier to not be around me). For six years, I tried to keep our friendship the way I remembered it to be in college but to no avail. Just a few months ago, I allowed myself to release her from my life. It won't ever be the same as I remember, and it's an unfair expectation for me to think it would be. I decided it was best to cherish the memories I have with her and move on with my life. It wasn't easy, but I honestly feel like a big burden was lifted off of my chest. I no longer have to hope I'm saying the right thing to her or try to make sure she's ok. She didn't care anyway, so I was pouring a lot of time and energy into an empty shell.
So this morning as I was driving to work, I found out that I am being faced with the task of making a huge life decison by this afternoon in regards to another aspect of my accident that could essentially effect my future. Tears welled up in my eyes and eventually spilled down my cheeks. They weren't tears of joy, but rather of difficulty, pain, saddness, and confusion. For about four months now, I knew this decision was coming up, but now the deadline is here, and I'm not sure I'm ready to "turn the page." See, for almost seven years, I've been reading the same page over and over and trying to re-live my past life before the accident. I have had such a tight grip on it all, and slowly I feel myself losing control of the situation. As desperately as I try to move on, it's hard. It's really hard, in fact, to let it all go and essentially be "ok" with the cards dealt to me. I mean, I am ok with my life and am incredibly grateful for what I have left. But there's one part that's been dragging on regarding my accident, and that's the decision I'm having to make today. I have to decide what to do. In my heart, I think it's time to move on. I feel God telling me, "Turn the page, Alyson. I have a whole new chapter in life I want you to read and experience, but you have to turn the page in order to find out what it is. Loosen the grip you have on it and allow it to fall through your fingers and into My hands. I've got you. I won't let you fall." I'm faced again with the uncertainty of tomorrow, but I think I'm ready to put an end to that chapter, to stop reading the old chapter, and to experience an abundant growth in myself. It takes a huge amount of faith to do what I might do. And it's not humanly easy. But for me, I want to see what's next. I've been waiting for what's next, however I've not given myself the authority to move on. I think it's time to walk full force into the next phase and trust that God will provide for me the entire time has He's promised. He's a God of protection, provision, and prosperity, and maybe the season I've been waiting so long for has actually been there all along. It was just up to me to recognize what it was. It might not be the outcome I was hoping for or wanting, but in the end, it might just be the best decision afterall.
Here's to the (possible) new chapter! I just gotta turn the page....
I've had many good experiences in life, and when it's good, I tend to want to stay in that moment and in that feeling. Even when things are bad, I allow my mind to wander back to "how it used to be." That's not always a good thing, though. People who continue to live in the past never have a chance to move on with their life. Yes, they are physically growing older and continue to have new experiences, however the new experiences are often clouded with the old memories.
On my way to work this morning, I was faced with a decision that has to made by 5pm today. It's in regards to my car accident almost 7 years ago that left me paralyzed. For many years, I found myself living in my "old self"... wanting so bad to go back to "how it used to be" and what was comfortable. I essentially sabatoged myself and my present living with hopes that one day it would be what I remember. The further I got away from the date of my accident, the harder I tried to hold on to what I knew. I tried to reconcile with my girlfriend whom I was in the accident with, however she wanted nothing to do with reconcilliation (I wanted to remain friends, but she was hung up on a lot of guilt, and in her mind, it was easier to not be around me). For six years, I tried to keep our friendship the way I remembered it to be in college but to no avail. Just a few months ago, I allowed myself to release her from my life. It won't ever be the same as I remember, and it's an unfair expectation for me to think it would be. I decided it was best to cherish the memories I have with her and move on with my life. It wasn't easy, but I honestly feel like a big burden was lifted off of my chest. I no longer have to hope I'm saying the right thing to her or try to make sure she's ok. She didn't care anyway, so I was pouring a lot of time and energy into an empty shell.
So this morning as I was driving to work, I found out that I am being faced with the task of making a huge life decison by this afternoon in regards to another aspect of my accident that could essentially effect my future. Tears welled up in my eyes and eventually spilled down my cheeks. They weren't tears of joy, but rather of difficulty, pain, saddness, and confusion. For about four months now, I knew this decision was coming up, but now the deadline is here, and I'm not sure I'm ready to "turn the page." See, for almost seven years, I've been reading the same page over and over and trying to re-live my past life before the accident. I have had such a tight grip on it all, and slowly I feel myself losing control of the situation. As desperately as I try to move on, it's hard. It's really hard, in fact, to let it all go and essentially be "ok" with the cards dealt to me. I mean, I am ok with my life and am incredibly grateful for what I have left. But there's one part that's been dragging on regarding my accident, and that's the decision I'm having to make today. I have to decide what to do. In my heart, I think it's time to move on. I feel God telling me, "Turn the page, Alyson. I have a whole new chapter in life I want you to read and experience, but you have to turn the page in order to find out what it is. Loosen the grip you have on it and allow it to fall through your fingers and into My hands. I've got you. I won't let you fall." I'm faced again with the uncertainty of tomorrow, but I think I'm ready to put an end to that chapter, to stop reading the old chapter, and to experience an abundant growth in myself. It takes a huge amount of faith to do what I might do. And it's not humanly easy. But for me, I want to see what's next. I've been waiting for what's next, however I've not given myself the authority to move on. I think it's time to walk full force into the next phase and trust that God will provide for me the entire time has He's promised. He's a God of protection, provision, and prosperity, and maybe the season I've been waiting so long for has actually been there all along. It was just up to me to recognize what it was. It might not be the outcome I was hoping for or wanting, but in the end, it might just be the best decision afterall.
Here's to the (possible) new chapter! I just gotta turn the page....
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